Quotes of the Day: “Ah, how good it feels! The hand of an old friend.” –Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
” Friendship is unnecesary, like philosopy, like art….It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.”–C.S. Lewis
I’ll be attending the Pascagoula High School Class of 1988 reunion this summer. I don’t really want to, and I don’t know why. I think about and I miss my old friends often. I had a great experience in High School. I sure don’t have anything better to do that weekend.
Maybe its because it all seems so superficial and contrived to “reunite” with several hundred people, or even the hundred plus that will show up, over drinks in three hours. Maybe there is a subconscious desire to think of these people as they were at 17, rather than 37, as a means of continuing to self delude myself that we are not so far removed from that time. I think more than anything its the sense of futility. We will promise to do better at staying in touch, but we won’t. I’ll see these old, trusted friends, and I’ll want to know them again.
I have often thought about the nature of friendships begun in adulthood versus those of one’s childhood. They are no less important, one than the other. We had much greater latitude in choice of the friends we made after graduation; consequently we have more in common with our newer friends as far as current interests, ideas, and difficulties. But the friends of our youth, thrust together by school and sports, know us in a way that is unique. They know us in a way that is in part more true, since they saw us before we learned to conceal our emotions and suppress our instincts. And they know that part of us where the awkwardness goes to hide after college. And they know how lucky we were to survive some reckless years.
I guess I really am looking forward to seeing everyone. I just hope its as much fun as it ought to be. And I hope we’ll all vow to keep in touch.